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A Clear Vision in 2020

Today’s Topic & What You’ll Learn

  • The Truth Behind Our Motivation
  • How Lack Of Details Can Get You Lost
  • Ways To Be More Specific With Your Goals
  • Execution Is Always The Same
  • Planning For Detours
  • Plan, Do, Check & Adjust (P.D.C.A) Your Goals Weekly
  • Never Have A “Plan B”
  • If You Fail – Don’t Beat Yourself Up Over It

Mama Robbins

As the holidays wrap up and the end of the year approaches, I find many of us scurry to get to the finish line. We realize all the things we never got to this year and all the things we will have to push to the next. Plus, don’t forget about those pesky New Year Resolutions.

How about this year, we go into 2020 with a clear vision. One that is more specific than what you are likely used to. I find time and time again we make these plans, ideas, or “resolutions” to achieve goals and hit targets, but come this time next year as life gets in the way, we find ourselves falling short of what we wanted to accomplish. Thus, feeling defeated, saddened, discouraged and/or stressed once again that we need to push our goals one more year, or if at all.

Do you ever wonder why this happens? As humans, we overestimate and under deliver. It’s that simple.

The Truth Behind Our Motivation

Our motivation is vastly based on what we DESIRE. If you don’t really want anything out of life, what in the world is going to give you the “get up and go” to your day? You have no purpose, no need, no strive for success. But add to the bigger picture… what you want your life to look like, things you want to possess, this will give you the fire under your tush to “get it in gear”!

Starting a New Year is HUGE! It’s the excitement to a clean slate…a fresh start. If you are anything like me, knowing you’re starting off at ground zero and you get to build your year as you see it, you get all hyped up and ready to go. I will even grab a piece of paper and start writing goal after goal…. lose weight, be a happier mom, work on my business, continue my website, build a product line, furnish my house, etc. But do you see what is wrong with these goals? They are WAY TOO VAGUE. You need to really narrow your goals down. No more basic goals with no timeline or extravagant goals without really breaking them down to the finish line. We need to really put a lot more thought into our goals this year. This will give you a much higher chance of reaching these goals and feeling more fulfilled, satisfied and rewarded in the end.

Lack of Detail May Get You Lost

The lack of details may even get you lost! The more detail you are lacking on your goals, the more likely you are NOT to hit them. Why?

Let me give you an example: Say you have a GPS in your car or phone. You plug in the address and away you go. You can tell it to avoid toll routes, ferries, skip over certain ways, you name it. It will calculate your exact route down to the minute based on your speed and location. If there is an accident, it will recalculate. That simple.

Alternative Option: Now say you didn’t have a GPS or google maps in an area you have never been. You stopped at a gas station and they tell you where you need to go but were very vague. Maybe you feel you have an “idea” how to get there and you can kinda see the route in your head, but can’t see the actual destination spot because of the lack of details provided to you. You start to travel and you make the turns necessary as described by the gas station attendant. But there is a problem….You thought the trip was only supposed to take 2 hours and now you have been driving around for 3 hours. One hour past your estimated time. You have no idea where you are going now as you feel you may have taken a wrong turn, and you can’t seem to find the location. So you stop for directions again…meanwhile, you actually past your destination twice and you had NO idea.

Why did I use that example? Because it’s a great way to show what having all the details vs very little will do for you. Without a plan in place, you have to stop more and reask the questions you should have started with. Plus, when the attendant gave you directions, you probably should have written it down.

Digging Deeper

When we talk about digging deeper and finding the smaller, fine-tuned details to your goals, I’m being dead serious. Here is some examples:

  • Weight Loss – How many lbs/kg, by when, what exercises are you going to do, how often per week will you work out, what time, how long are your sessions, what kind of food will you eat, avoid, how much water will you drink a day, what is your back up plan if you missed any of these above
  • Building Your Business – How many clients do you want to gain this month, what type of clients, how many presentations will you do a week, what products will you offer, how many hours a day will you work on your business, during those hours what will you work on, if you get sick or something comes up how will you make up those hours, how many referrals will you collect, how do you plan to get those referrals, how many calls will you make a day, what social media will you utilize, if business falls off the books what will you do to recover, etc
  • Buying a house – what is the price of the home, what will your mortgage payment be, what is your preapproved mortgage amount, if your payment is more than you could afford now how can you change that, how many more hours at work would you need to work, is there overtime available, could you get a more affordable home, how many bedrooms do you need vs want, what type of garage, what is the exterior made of, how much land would you like, do you want it fenced in or open, do you want it in the city or the country, is a school in the neighbourhood or a grocery store, do you care about the “walk score” (how close it is walking distance to things), etc
  • Get Out Of Debt – How much debt do you have, what are your debts, what has the highest interest rate, what are your minimum payments, how much of your budget can you put towards your debts or how much per pay will you put on your card, if you miss a payment how will you make up the difference, how long would it take you to eliminate one piece of debt if you only paid the minimum payment, can you work more hours to get more money, etc

Execution Is Always The Same

It really doesn’t matter what goal you have. The execution process is always going to be the same. Find out what you want the end game/goal to look like, then work yourself back to see what you need to do in order to get there.

Plan For Detours

Whatever goal you set for yourself, remember that life happens. Kids are born, family members pass away, job advancements, more responsibility, extracurricular activities, you stay late at work or work more overtime, maintaining relationships, RnR time for you. Things are going to happen, things are going to advert you from your path of achieving your goals, but instead of just putting them on the back burner like most of us do and regret not getting to it later, put these “Detours” into your plan of achieving your goal.

Baby Steps To Success

A huge factor to people not being able to achieve the goals they set for the year is they look at the Big Picture too far down the road. If you know you want to lose 50lbs this year, that can seem overwhelming. Especially if you have struggled with your weight for a while. You need to make sure you are taking small baby steps to success. Personally, I love to give myself “Weekly” rewards for my goals. Doesn’t matter how long I know they will take. If I am aiming to write 8 pieces of business this next month and I know I should be doing 2 a week and I hit that 2 that week…guess what… REWARD! Then, if I also hit my 8 for the month….another REWARD! Why? Because rewarding ourselves more frequently also will boost your motivation to KEEP GOING! What better way to almost guarantee success! Now on the other hand, if you are struggling to hit your goals and really failing….that is okay too. Sometimes we need to fail to make our minds and bodies stronger for a different goal we could focus on.

Goal Overload!

Don’t set yourself up for failure from the beginning. If you set TOO MANY goals for the year, even though they may be broken down to the day, you can be focusing on too many things at once and lose site of it all. The whole saying, “A Jack of All Trades and a Master of None” can not be truer.

BreakDown Process

Weight loss is the easiest goal to explain for comprehension purposes, so let’s stick with this one. If you know you want to lose 50lbs this year (your end goal) break it down. 50 lbs for the year divided by 12 months is 4.16lbs per month. With the normal 4 weeks in a month that roughly 1 lbs per week. That’s so dooable! So you say to yourself…I will workout Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, you list the foods you will eat, and avoid. You plan all the details needed. Prepping foods in advance to avoid cravings, drinking a lot of water and always having a water bottle with you. But you KNOW for a fact, you will have days you don’t want to go, something will come up, your schedule will be running behind, you will miss a day, or you will have a week you plateau and you don’t lose a pound. What do you do? Plan for the next week to work out a little longer, or maybe do an extra day that week. But what happens if you miss a day or two, struggle to eat right, and are not losing anything?

P.D.C.A (Plan, Do, Check, Adjust)

Sometimes we have to go back to our original goal and re-mark out our path. Our goal is still the same, but our path is written in sand. This is a key importance to ensuring we still accomplish our goals by the end of the year. Thing is, maybe a lot of things happen that are unforeseen and we need to adjust either the goal itself or how we want to get there. But whatever you do, DON’T WRITE OFF THE GOAL COMPLETELY. Unless you feel that goal is actually no longer something you want to achieve, keep pushing forward!

It doesn’t matter how much you are thrown off the plan, if you get lost on your GPS 3/4 of the way into your trip you don’t just turn around and go back home and call it quits. Does that make sense? You put that much time and effort into it in the first place, don’t make that time wasted! Make sure you are checking in on your goal process once weekly! This will ensure if you have had any setbacks you can “reroute” your path to still achieve your goal on time.

Arnold Schwarzenegger said it best, “Never have a Plan B”

Why never have a Plan B? Because it allows your mind to know there is a safety net. It will give you a reason to make excuses or feel excuses are okay. If you Google Arnold Schwarzenegger Motivations Talks and you see how he became as successful as he has and more. Seriously….this guy worked 10 to 12 hours days and still went to the gym 4 to 5 hours a day while working on his acting career. Crazy. Now, we have social media, television, and other things that pop into our lives that make us “feel” we have a reason not to do something. We’ve worked so hard all day so now we need to relax….no…you “want” to relax.

When you make things a priority, you will make time for those things.

If You Fail – Don’t Beat Yourself Up

Remember I said we are human and we tend to overestimate and under deliver? If you did plan too much for the year and you didn’t achieve everything you wanted, DON’T BEAT YOURSELF UP OVER IT. If you were able to even achieve one goal off your list, call it a victory. It is extremely rare for someone to list 20 to 30 goals for the year and hit every single one. (Depending on the goal) If you are one who normally does that, you are a high achiever and should be reaching out to others and helping them achieve their goals too! We all need mentors!

So be specific with your goals right down to what you want the end result to be. Work back from there and breakdown what needs to happen in between. Make sure you have a plan for when something does pop in that causes you to “Detour” and how you will get back on the path to achieve your goal. Let’s Make A Clear Vision in 2020 and hit those New Year Resolutions the first time!

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Mama Robbins

Blog, Parenting, Relationships, Self Improvement

5 Essential Must-Knows For Back To School Bullies

Today’s Topic & What You’ll Learn

  • Why I’m Writing This Post – My Personal Experience Being Bullied
  • Bullying Has Changed From What It Used To Be
  • Some Bullying Statistics
  • Some Schools Have No Procedure To Deal With Bullying
  • 6 Common Types Of Bullying
  • Bullying Warning Signs To Watch For
  • How To Prevent Bullying
  • Traits Of A Healthy Relationship
  • 5 Basic “To Do’s” If You’re Bullied
  • What A Winconson School Is Doing

Mama Robbins

The Hard Truth

I’m going to be very upfront. Bullying today is nothing like it used to be. Though bullying has been around from the dawn of time, from sticks and stones will break my bones…bullying has changed. From the mass shootings, stabbings, and people committing suicide because they can’t deal with the pressure….today…Bullying Literally Kills!

I Was Bullied My Whole Life

I was a victim of bullying my entire life. I kid you not! From the time I was in kindergarten, I remember kids taking my lunch and spilling it all over the basketball court, pulling my hair while on the climbers, and name-calling to an extent, when I think about it now, it’s outrageous. Move me up a few years later to middle school, they were pushing me in the hall and continued name-calling. Move me up to highschool and there were kids tripping me while I was walking between classes, people defiling my locker with horrible drawings, words and posters. Move me up to college and these ADULTS were throwing my books on the floors and still calling me names. One more move up to adult life in the workforce….guess what…the talking behind my back and the name-calling continued. (For certain people)

It honestly wasn’t until I took control of my life and really started paying attention to even what I was doing in my life and who I was hanging around did I finally see I can limit the bullying. So, I cut ALL negative people out of my life, worked hard and still am on my own personal growth and guess what….though some office politics still occur on occasion, which is going to happen, my life is 100% better.

There was a saying I heard once, not sure who it is by….”If you are friend with everyone, you are doing something wrong” – This can not be truer.

Now, you may be thinking, what the heck! What is wrong with this girl to be tormented for so long and like that. Well, I was close to the “lowest on the totem pole”. On top of that, I came from a low-income household so I was never able to wear nice looking clothes, my hair was…well not well maintained and I 100% looked nerdy. Until I hit college, I can see why they made fun of me. I was an easy target for those who needed to feel superior.

Now, years later, I have settled down and had my own children. As we speak, I just finished having #3! They are my world and to see them in pain kills me. So the day my oldest daughter came home and told me how she was bullied, I felt something I NEVER expected. ….The same feeling I felt when I was bullied. I felt that again. ….I almost cried. The fear I felt in that moment for her. “What if she has to go through school like I did and is teased, physically hurt, or worse”. Now….I write this post to hopefully give other parents, guardians and caregivers hope for the children of our future because nothing is more dissatisfying than seeing and hearing your kids are being bullied.

Moving On…

Everyone deals with bullies at some point in their lives. Even as adults. We just call it office politics. Now that your kids are back in school for the new year, that means another year of dealing with those bullies too.

As much as I don’t want to bore you with numbers, it’s important to understand and see how much bullying is taking place.

The Statistics

From the Website:, here are some stats I was able to find:

  • Every 7 MINUTES a child is being bullied
  • 70.6% of young people say they have seen bullying in their schools
  • 70.4% of school staff have seen bullying
  • When someone intervenes, bullying stops within 10 seconds 57% of the time
  • 1 in 4 people report they were bullied

It’s unfortunate we have to go through life being taunted at. It doesn’t matter if you are rich or poor, black or white, gay or straight, tall or short, overweight or thin, it happens to all of us. We implement anti-bullying campaigns all over the world trying to combat the problem and making kids aware of how bullying affects them and everyone around them. However, despite our awareness and attempts to stop or even reduce it, it will still happen.

The Pit In Your Stomach

As parents, hearing your child comes home talking about someone calling them names, other kids chasing them around and kicking stuff at them, stealing their books and throwing them on the ground, tripping, pushing, you name it, there grows a pit in your stomach and you just wish you could take their pain away. You as a parent sometimes feel hopeless and frustrated. Why can’t other kids stop?

Let’s not forget my favourite part! (Sarcasm) Your child comes home and expresses what went on that day and you see they’re hurt. Of course, as parents, we ask them, “Did you tell a teacher?” Their response, “Yes, but they just told the other kid to stop and the second the teacher turns away they started again!” Sometimes the teacher will tell them, “You’re fine.”….. ….. Are you kidding me? I find all too many times my kids are coming home letting me know they are taking the steps we talk about to resolve the problems and I feel the teachers or caregivers just are not taking the appropriate steps for some of the behaviours.

What My Kids Deal With…

My oldest daughter was being chased around the schoolyard by two girls, two grades higher than her. They told her to stay away from a friend of hers. They even went as far as kicking rocks and sand at her and another girl she was with. She told the teacher and the teacher expressed to the other girls to stop and leave her alone. Right as the teacher turns away, the kids proceeded to torment them again. She went back and told the teacher and was told, “You’ll be fine!”. It wasn’t until I called the school Principal the next day and expressed my concern that anything was done with these girls. To ALSO find out they are known for this behaviour and nothing has been done about it either. Wow….no wonder kids fight back!

I’m sure some of you fully understand my frustration as it has either happen to you as a child or worse, your own children!

No Formal Procedure

Turns out, there are a lot of schools that don’t have a common procedure to deal with these bullying fiascos. It is determined by the teacher/principal at the time what the precautions/disciplines should be. My daughter’s school is, unfortunately, is one of them.

This is disgusting! We need to implement something into the system across the Board on the steps we need to be taking to deal with these kids and incidents.

Now that my rant is over….Let’s look at how we can give our kids and you the proper tools to deal with the bullying they may encounter.

What Is Bullying?

Bullying comes in so many forms, sometimes our kids have no idea they are even a victim. It is super important everyone in the home is aware of what they are.

6 Common Types Of Bullying

  1. Online
  2. Racist
  3. Emotional
  4. Physical
  5. Verbal
  6. Sexual

Common Warning Signs

There are many possible signs that will give off there is something going on, but here are 13 of the more commonly encounters signed your child may be a victim of bullying:

  1. Loss of Appetite
  2. Lost or Damaged Items
  3. Self Harm
  4. Frequent Requests to Miss School
  5. Unexplained Injuries
  6. Grades Taking a Plunge
  7. Sudden Behavioral Changes
  8. Sleep Disturbances
  9. Withdrawing from Extracurricular Activities
  10. Abnormal Frequency of Feeling Ill
  11. Sudden Change in Friend or Become Isolated
  12. Not Willing to Talk About What is Bothering Them
  13. Change In Amount of Tech They Use

If you notice your kids going through any of the above-noted warning signs, GET INVOLVED RIGHT AWAY! Do NOT wait to talk to them. Especially with older children, you never know when it may be too late.

A Personal Suicide From Bullying

One morning, back when I was in high school, there was a 16-years-old boy we waited for at the bus stop. He never showed that day. I thought it was odd as he usually never missed school. Later that day there was a teacher that came to each classroom to inform us that boy had committed suicide in his home the night prior.

Warning – Graphic Information……….He had hung himself from his bedroom ceiling fan and was found the next morning when his mom went in to get him up for school. The class was shocked and this was super emotional for his close friends and even people who didn’t know him. Why? Because people kept teasing him he was Gay. Back then, it was a huge deal if you were Gay. People didn’t accept it at all. So he ended his life. I struggled with his death for years as we were extremely close, but no one even knew about it because he was teased for hanging out with me too. (RIP Matthew)

So again, if you recognize these signs, PLEASE GET HELP FOR YOUR KIDS!

How To Prevent Bullying

In my opinion, understanding what a “Healthy Relationship” is will be a huge importance. If you have no idea what a healthy relationship is, how can you understand an unhealthy one?

Qualities Of A Healthy Relationship

  • Friendship – You feel like you are each other’s best friend (or good friend)
  • Open Communication – You are able to tell each other everything and don’t keep secrets
  • Trust & Reliability – Know you will be there for each other in hard times, good times, and bad times
  • Supportiveness – They support your decisions and don’t try to bring you down
  • Forgive Each Other For Wrongdoings – If you mess up, you forgive and forget. No holding wrongdoings over you and bringing it up again. Once forgiven you move on.
  1. Make sure you discuss WHAT bullying is and WHAT it looks like. Like I mentioned before, your child may not even know they are being bullied if they have not been talked with on what to look for. This also includes what THEY may do which could be considered as bullying. Hurtful jokes, talking bad behind someone’s back or being judgemental of others. We want our kids to understand it’s not just what we are looking for in other’s but what we are looking for in ourselves.
  2. Keep open lines of communications. Kids need to know there is someone in the household or someone close to them they can freely discuss things. Make sure you are talking to your kids DAILY about their social lives. What is going on? Who are they hanging out with? Anything bad happen today? What good things happen today? Get involved and stay involved!
  3. Monkey-See-Monkey-Do Kids will usually demonstrate behaviours we portray. Making sure we are treating others the way we want to be treated is also extremely important. Though, I’m sure that goes without me saying it.

5 Basic “TO DO’s” If You’re Bullied

  • Ask Them To Stop & Walk Away Immediately! As soon as anyone is bullying you or making you feel uncomfortable, you need to make sure you are saying clearly and loudly to STOP and walk in the opposite direction immediately. Even my kids will come home and tell me they were teased at school and they told the teacher, but when I ask them if they told the other person to STOP and walk away they say no. Too many times kids will stay where they are because they feel they shouldn’t need to move, but if you have a Bully Tagger, they need to relocate.
  • Tell Someone! Anyone…right away that you are being bullied. Don’t wait for it to happen again. Make sure you are telling an adult. If that adult doesn’t do anything about it, make sure you are finding someone TO DO something about it. Maybe the teacher doesn’t do anything, so you tell your parents and they can make a call to the school. Just like I did.
  • You’re Stronger In Numbers. If you have a bully tagging along every recess or lunch period, get a group of your friends to stay close for a while. Bullies are less tempted when the numbers outrank them.
  • Make Them Feel Powerless. Either Act Unimpressed or Laugh Hysterically. The number ONE reasons a bully will keep attacking is because you give them power! As soon as they see they can get under your skin, it’s target time. Over and over and over. If you encounter a bully, don’t give them what they want. Look at them like you are not impressed, roll your eyes, laugh uncontrollably like it doesn’t bother you at all. Bullies will pick on the weakest link. So stay strong and DO NOT ENGAGE…..EVER!
  • Restrict Account Access or Deleting Social Media. Sometimes the bullying is cyberbullying. With technology in the hands of most children these days, it’s almost inevitable you will encounter bullying over text, messenger, or some version of social medial. Numbers mean nothing on a screen. You are usually in isolation with this bully. However, most social media today allow you to BLOCK and Control who can access you. So either block them or delete your accounts.

What A School In Wisconsin Is Doing!

You know Bullying has become a huge issue when a School in Wisconsin starts issuing FINES to parents for the “bullying” Child!

Just this year, 2019, Wisconsin passed a new law that will fine the parent of the bullying child for either in person or online bullying. First, the parents will get a warning note and are given 90 days to correct the behaviour. Thereafter, if the child is caught or no improvement, the parents are given a fine of $366. Second offences are $681.

Let’s be honest for a second here….who the heck can afford a fine for a child bullying in school and what in the world is this teaching your CHILD? Nothing in my opinion! Yes, this might actually encourage parents to take a little more action when it comes to their child bullying at the school and gets their child help for the behaviours if needed, but is issuing a fine to a family really going to make a huge difference? Absolutely not! Plus, on top of being a financial burden to the family, I wonder what kind of treatment some kids are going to get when the parent is notified they now have to pay a $366 fine for their kids’ behaviour

Instead of “fining” a parent, we need to be implementing procedures to make the child understand what they did was wrong. I know back in my day IN SCHOOL SUSPENSIONS SUCKED and they need to bring these back! If you send the child home, whoohoo day off classes and time with mom and dad. Plus again, the parent is out money because now they have an unexpected day of childcare. (If your child is under 12). For those who have older kids, again, this is just another day out of school.

Final Overview

Bullying is nasty. No matter what form it comes in. We try to teach our kids to be the best they can be and how to overcome situations where they become a victim of bullying. It is an unfortunate truth that as much as we want to protect them, it will be up to them to protect themselves. So make sure they know what to do and when. Stand their ground and don’t let them be discouraged by the world around them.

Let’s embrace our kids, equip them with the tools needed and let them conquer the world and hope they become the change we want to see in this world.

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Mama Robbins

Blog, Parenting, Relationships

The Ultimate Guide To Successful PlayDates

Today’s Topic & What You’ll Learn

  • What is a PlayDate
  • Benefits of PlayDates
  • Steps to improve your PlayDates with an opportunity to become a Pro
  • My Ultimate Trick to making PlayDates easier
  • Getting in those last minute PlayDates
  • Finding time to schedule a PlayDate even if you feel you have no time left

Mama Robbins

The wonderful world of PlayDates! Google says, “A date and time set by parents for their children to play together”. If you are a parent, I’m fairly confident you have had one. Unless your baby is too young. In my opinion, PlayDates can go one of THREE ways. They will either go horribly wrong and you regret leaving the house, mediocre as you expected and at least you got out, or super fantastic beyond anything you expected and can’t wait to do it again!

If you have never done a play date or just starting out, you may be on the fence about the whole idea. If you have had a few and plan them once every few weeks, you may be excited to get out, but the hassle just doesn’t seem worth it. But what if you could become a pro and start having them multiple times per week without losing your mind? I know…you are probably thinking I’m crazy. But I can tell you from personal experience, knowing how to properly plan your PlayDates can make or break you wanting to do them.

Sometimes I feel we envision PlayDates where the kids all get together at a park, the adults sit together on the bench drinking their coffee under a shaded tree on a sunny day, and you get to watch your kids play while you have lovely conversations with the other parents. MERRRR……WRONG! PlayDates can be almost anything. As long as the kids are together and playing. It’s a PlayDate!

Benefits Of PlayDates

  • Your kids can become more socially equipt
  • It can keep them occupied while you have time to yourself or time with others
  • Getting out can be an incentive and the phrase “I’m Bored” could diminish
  • Gets them moving (aka Exercise)
  • You may finally have some time to socialize with people that are not our small humans.

I guess that can be a win-win for all, right???!! But what if we are working moms that go to work all day, have the ability to talk to adults, and no time in the evenings and weekend because you have too much to get done? Well…I’m going to cover that too! So, let’s get started!

Steps To Improve Your PlayDates!

  • Get A Planner – I know this sounds weird for PlayDates, but this is key. If you don’t have a way to remember the dates and times, you will have some really disappointed children. How it is they can’t seem to remember where they left their the way, that should be at the front door!!!!…but they can remember a PlayDate scheduled three weeks away without writing it down!!????? When I mention a “planner” this can be hardcopy (my fav) or your phone. A phone is more practical these days as you can set intentional reminders. (Love this too)
  • Plan A Month In Advance – I am a HUGE planner. I like things to be marked in my calendar at least 2 weeks in advance. Why? Because I have three kids, school activities, after-school swim lessons, chores, supper, Blogging, etc. I’m sure you know the drill. The last thing I want is to be asked for a PlayDate and I have to say No as I have no time slots left. So….at the beginning of a month, I will sit down and I literally start texting the parents asking if they’d be interested in a PlayDate.
  • Schedule In The DatesAs soon as the text come back “Yes” for PlayDates, SET THE DATE and TIME. This is extremely important. When we leave plans for, “oh I’ll call you next week”….”I’ll get back to you”…they tend to fall off the radar because we are super busy. So when you get the confirmation, start putting in the details right away.
  • Do Child Swaps & Optimize Time – I’m sure a lot of you already do this, but for those of you who don’t, this is amazing. It’s basically FREE CHILDCARE! If you know you do groceries every Wednesday around 3 to 4…not that many parents are that schedule and on time….but try to plan a PlayDate at “that” child’s house during those hours! SCORE…Not only will you be able to get your groceries done without a child-in-tow, they will be having a great time with their friends and save you money on the way past the “check-out” catchers. (Those are the isles on either side of you when you get to the till…filled with goodies your kids can’t seem to not ask for – unless it’s dental floss, leg raisers, Q-Tips, etc – then they don’t seem to think about it) Maybe you noticed every Saturday afternoon you start to feel worn out and wish you could have a well-needed nap. Guess what??!! Schedule a PlayDate!!! The opportunities are literally endless!
  • Avoid Scheduling Around NapTime – For the younger kids….this is like the advice you receive to never go shopping on an empty stomach…seriously..don’t do this…but if you schedule too close to a nap, you will either end up with a cranky, screaming child close to the end of the PlayDate wishing you hadn’t gone at all, or need to leave early because bad behaviours start to get more prominent around this time. Make sure they are well-rested and plan to be back well enough in time to get them down for their scheduled sleep. On the other side of things…if you have an older child no longer taking naps, make sure you don’t plan a PlayDate right after a vacation, or anything that completely threw off their schedule. This can upset things and make it much more difficult for you.
  • Child Having Bad Day, Go Anyways – This may seem really odd, but when your child is having a bad day from the moment they woke up, it’s usually due to lack of sleep. For some reason, this starts a wonderful domino effect of misbehaviours, back-talking, tantrums, crying. You name it, it seems to happen. But getting them OUT OF THE HOUSE can actually be a perfect cure. However, make sure they understand any “extreme behaviours” will have the consequence of leaving immediately. Not to mention, when your child has been giving you the run around all morning, the last thing you want to do it keep being around them. This will give you and them a well-needed separation break to recoup. Note: If your child has been acting up, you may not want to send them to the friend’s house alone. For this time, you may want to accompany them.
  • Always Bring Snacks – It doesn’t matter if you JUST ATE, bring snacks! Kids are bottomless pits. I can’t tell you how many times we just got in the car to leave for a PlayDate and I hear, “Mom…..I’m hungry!” WHAT?? Plus, you never know if a PlayDate goes super great and you stay longer, you will be better prepared.
  • Limit Technology Use – Okay…by now you should know I am a HUGE advocate for limiting tech around you and your family. A PlayDate is not having kids over, going to someone’s house, park, wherever and them pulling out the tablets, iPhones, laptops, Nintendo Switch, etc. PlayDates are meant to “socialize”. If it’s a sleepover and there is a movie, of course, that is okay. I’m also not saying no devices at all either. What I’m saying is limit the use. Is the game something that is interactive and the whole family can play too? Then that is a GREAT idea. Is it something where other kids just watch? Probably best to save that for later. Try to keep the focus on the “Play” part. If it’s questionable and you are not sure….pass.

My Top Secret Trick To Successful PlayDates…

  • Families With Multiple Kids – When you have more than one child and there is an age gap, it can sometimes be difficult for them to all play together. How many times do you hear, “MOM, she isn’t including me!” or “MOM, they’re being mean to me!” This can drive any parent crazy. So…I especially look for other families that have kids both around 5 and 7 years of age. As great as the Child Swap is, sometimes it only works for one child, leaving the other child alone or feeling unwanted. I found this to be a horrible feeling for both myself and for my child left out. My oldest daughter has a few friends in her class and my youngest daughter has a few friends in her class… both of whom are siblings. We have four families in the area that meet this criteria. When it comes time to schedule the “PlayDate”, I contact the parents, follow all the tips from above, and BAM. The kids come over, the two oldest play together…the two youngest play together and EVERYONE is happy…..well…99% of the time.

Last-Minute Scheduling

So we have covered a variety of ways to schedule your PlayDates in advance. This is to help them run more smoothly. But what about the 5pm call after school asking if your kids could have a PlayDate? (This happens to me all the time) Well…from my past experience, usually this is requested of my older children. But here are a few rules you may want your kids to follow:

  • Do what is easiest for you! If I have kids asking to come over..even for 20 minutes before supper…I know it gives me more focus on making supper. If I have kids asking to come over during supper..obviously that is a no.
  • Make sure your EXPECTATIONS are crystal clear. Setting boundaries where they can play is a great one
  • Clean up is mandatory before other kids can leave. Ask them to start putting things away at least 15 minutes before they should be picked up. We all know cleaning becomes play, to being told to clean…again!

On the go PlayDates “can” be chaotic, but depending on the age of your child(ren) it can be a blessing in disguise!

I Have No Time For PlayDates…

The secret to getting PlayDates in when you are working more relies on your ability to trust other parents with your kids. If you have trust issues…this idea may not be for you. However, if you have built great relationships with these parents, this may be a slam dunk. What is it?

I feel a lot of our kids make at least ONE really great friend in school. THAT is the family you can schedule the PlayDate with. When I feel confident and have built a relationship with the parents….may that be over FB Chat, Texting, etc….I will sometimes allow those parents to pick my child up from school and bring them back to their house. (I fully admit I will physically go “check out” their house and meet the parent first) If I’m concerned with the other parents driving…after work I would pick up my child(ren) and bring them to their house and just “drop-off”. While my child(ren) are playing, I go home and take care of other needed errands. Need I mention I usually get even MORE done because now I have less distraction at home. Friday night weekend sleepovers are the best for this. No need to plan supper that evening if no kids at home, I know they will be taken care of for at least 12 hours, and I can focus on other things so when I have my kids back I can FOCUS ON THEM. Not the million other things I need to take care of.

Summary For PlayDate…

  • Get a planner
  • Try to plan a month in advance
  • Schedule the DATE and TIME as soon as a “yes” has been confirmed
  • Do child swap & optimize your time
  • Avoid scheduling around nap time or coming back from vacations
  • Child having bad day – go anyways
  • Always bring snacks
  • Limit tech usage
  • Try to find families with multiple children the age of yours (this only really applies if you have more than one child)

Obviously, every family dynamic is different. I’m not saying these tips will work for you, but I have had a LOT of PlayDates with all THREE of my kids, and these tricks have been almost flawless every time!

Questions For You

  1. Is there any PlayDate tricks or tips that work well for your family?
  2. What do you feel is the main reason PlayDates doesn’t end well?
  3. Do you have a plan when you do PlayDates or do you leave it all to chance?

Let me know in the comments below about your PlayDates! I’d love to hear what you do, where you go, how YOU feel about them. I also hope you are able to take a few tips from here, implement them into your PlayDates and see immediate results!

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Mama Robbins

Blog, Diary

Why I’ve Been M.I.A.

3 min read

Today’s Topic & What You’ll Learn

  • Why I haven’t been posting much…on literally anything
  • What my plans are due to time commitments
  • New Journey, I’m starting August/September you can follow me on!

Mama Robbins

Over the last few months, things in my world went from having a few spare moments here and there to having practically nothing. Why?

After having Baby Rylan, my husband stayed home with me for 5 whole months! He’s friggen amazing for doing so. This allowed me a little time each day to Blog, or do whatever I needed. Now that he was back at work and Baby Rylan had decided he can only nap when he is physically on me, it left me with no time whatsoever to do a darn thing! To top it off, we are in the middle of a move to a townhome, so between taking care of Rylan all day, my other two daughters come evening and packing…..well, I’m sure you get the picture.

So, for the last few months, I haven’t been updating my blog, other than my one amazing post on Ell’s Pinterest eCourse, reading, adding to my Twitter feed, Instagram, nadda. Talk about a hit to my stats!

Anywho, I wanted to fill you guys in quickly on what has been kinda going on in my world so you know this isn’t a permanent thing. Gosh, Blogging is a lifeline for me! I honestly can’t imagine my life without it anymore!

What’s My Plan?

I’m to go back to work from my Parental Leave around November. I honestly am not sure how this will affect everything I am doing now. Over the last week I have finally managed to get Rylan to sleep without being on me, hence this update. But going forward … what I want to do and what I am able to do I feel are two completely different things.

Here Are A Few Things…

  • Write a new Blog post once a month
  • Post a new Vlog once a month
  • Keep up with a Blog Review every week or every two weeks
  • Manage my Social Media Accounts at least once a week
  • Get back into shape! I’m a “Frumpy Mommy” at the moment.

I don’t feel this list is unreasonable. It’s just managing to find the time. Either way, it’s all about Priorities right?…..yeah..ok…

So there you have it, why I’ve been M.I.A. for the last few months. I miss all of you so much. Being able to provide content that fills your free time between stressful workdays, keeping you occupied with your loved one is sleeping beside you, or between hectic times while you deal with the kiddos!

I shall be back soon!

In the meantime…follow my progress…

I have decided the month of August to September I want to get back into shape. So I will be joining a gym for 30 days. I will be posting my progress along with LIVE videos on my Facebook Page. In order to watch, you will need to look up “Mama Robbins Support Group” on Facebook and Request To Join! (For whatever reason unknown to me I am not able to post the link to the group here.) My live videos will explain the reason behind this decision, how I incorporate the gym and 3 kids, meal planning (which I suck at), how stresses affect our physical and mental health and more!

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Mama Robbins

Blog, Building Your Brand

The Ultimate Pinterest eCourse That Won’t Break Your Bank

What’s In It For You & What You’ll Learn

  • How to get your hands on the BEST eCourse out there that will finally teach you the “ins” and “outs” of Pinterest
  • Why this eCourse is so important
  • You will finally understand how to set up your account and it’s done right
  • You will know the ideal graphics you should be using that get better clicks, what applications to use to create them, and how!
  • You will understand the details that go into creating a Pin to ensure it’s getting pulled in the search options
  • You will be able to take advantage of auto-schedules apps to make your life so much easier and get back to creating the content that matters
  • You will see your monthly views increase and get the blog traffic you’ve been looking for
  • Be on the path to earning a paycheck for the work you put into your Blog

Mama Robbins

This post contains affiliate links, which means I will make a commission at no extra cost to you should you click through and make a purchase.

Overview Of How It Started

Here’s the thing. When I first started my website, I read somewhere that if you’re a Blogger, you should obtain a Pinterest account. Why? Because millions of people use it daily and it is a great opportunity for your Blog posts to be discovered… …. Okay….. That is great and all, but how in the world do I use it? Like everything out there comes a learning curve to new things. Pinterest was no exception.

Here I was thinking people just scrolled through random pictures and when they came across one that met their fancy, they click on the picture and that was it…….Sound like you too? Was I wrong! Pinterest, if you didn’t already know is like Google. Yes, it is actually a search engine. There is a search bar at the very top that allows you to search for anything specific you want. You want to know more about “Parenting”, you can type that in the search bar. If you want to learn how to have the best garden this year, you can type that in the search bar. The results are literally endless. But that still didn’t answer my question on HOW TO USE Pinterest and why it was such a big deal for Bloggers.

Doing My Research

So, I started doing a little digging. I Googled how to use Pinterest, watched some free videos, created an account and boom. I was officially on the platform. I created my profile, filled out some information and started clicking on other peoples posts and creating my boards. But something was wrong. This wasn’t drawing any traffic to my site. Then again, how could it? I had nothing linking to my site, nor did I have any idea how to.

Before Pictures Of My Account

To give you a little idea what my Pinterest Account looked like….here is my main heading shortly after I started.

As you can see, based on a few things I had read prior with the free courses I was able to incorporate a “proper name” for Pinterest and I did include what I talk about on my boards in my “description”. However, that still wasn’t increasing my traffic enough? Why…you may ask?

They say {Pictures are worth a thousand words}. This is for a reason. This is what my boards looked like in the beginning….

Here, you can see a variety of my Boards, but they have no real rhyme or reason as to how they are laid out, what should be seen first, and it looks unappealing. Looking back at this now…I remember thinking to myself, “My boards look pretty good!” Um…no…they really didn’t. Soo……

Back to the drawing board. I started to Google “How to Blog Post to Pinterest”. This gave me a few step-by-step instructions. I got my first few Pins up and waited….and waited…and waited. After two months with my Blog Pins being on Pinterest, I wasn’t getting many views. I only had 330 after TWO whole months! If you don’t already know this, that is an extremely low number. What was I doing wrong?

Ell’s eCourse Kept Calling Me

I kept hearing about this amazing Pinterest eCourse by Ell from Boss Girl Bloggers. Almost weekly I kept coming across other Bloggers posts referencing how fantastic her eCourse was, how it changed their lives, and it wasn’t expensive! I was already following Ell via Twitter, click HERE if you want to follow her too. I had no idea she had created her own course on the subject. I became very curious…..

The Hesitation

As a consumer, I feel we are built with this hesitation wall from investing in anything that takes money from our pockets. We work hard for that green. Plus, how can you truly trust anything on the internet these days? I know I kept hearing about it, I saw other peoples results using it, but would it really work for me….would I be able to follow her instructions….will it be worth the price? The questions are endless when you have that “wall” up for protection. But was it really protecting me?

Taking The Plunge

So I took the leap of faith and purchased Ell’s eCourse HERE. Guess what?! This was the best investment to date I’ve invested in Blogging! Why? Because I was able to get results in under 60 days, and I’m not talking small. I’m talking HUGE!

One thing I would like to point out is I would have achieved these results WAY quicker had I not procrastinated on making the necessary changes per her instructions. So YOU can ABSOLUTELY have these results in less time if you put the effort in.

I know…I know…some of you may be thinking, just like I did, but what proof do you have this actually works! Well, I was proactive and took before and after shots of my Pinterest account so I could prove to myself it works…or didn’t. Boy, am I ever glad I did!

After Pictures Of My Account

Here are the after pictures of my account after taking her course and waiting just 60 days to see my numbers change.

Yes, you can see that right! I went from 330 Monthly views to over 10,000 in UNDER 60 days!!! Say what????

What was the big difference? I’ll show you!…..

Doesn’t that look SO much better? With a few modifications, my account finally looks welcoming!

The Big Deal With Ell’s eCourse

As many of you have probably already seen. A lot of eCourses out there are advertised. I mean…ALL OVER the place. Facebook Ads, YouTube Ads, Instagram Feeds, you name it. As I wanted to learn more about Pinterest, I watched one of those, “Watch me so you can learn to succeed on Pinterest” Masterclass things that gets you to watch for an hour, sometimes two, to find out at the very end there comes a hefty price tag and that wasn’t even the “real deal”. Some of them wanted you to pay $1995.00! You want me to WHAT????? Um…..I’m into Blogging yes, I want it to be my life, but I’m not risking going broke in one shot for it though.

Then there is Ell’s eCourse. Her price is a simple $32 (US). That’s it! I was shocked! The best part, she shows you her results over a period of time from her principles she teaches in this course and they are dramatic! She even goes beyond and shows you actual testimonies of people who have taken it as well!

Extra Bonus

On top of everything that Ell does, she decided to start a website 100% dedicated to promoting Pinterest. This is a perfect opportunity for you to get to know Ell and the way she makes Pinterest work for her and for you! You can visit her website HERE.

What You’ll Learn – Curriculum

How To Set Up Your Pinterest Account

Learn how to properly set up your Pinterest account to your best advantage and how to create branding Pinterest graphics & more!

I was SO nieve and thought I knew what I was doing when I created my account. She teaches you the steps that make it easier for YOU so you don’t miss out on something important.

What Tailwind Is And How To Use It

An in-depth tutorial on how to properly use Tailwind to your BEST benefit to drive traffic to your blog and increase Pinterest views.

When I first started, I kept hearing about Tailwind and had NO idea what this was. This app was a godsend! It auto-schedules your Pinterest AND Instagram Accounts for you so you have more time to focus on what matters most! Writing content! Click HERE to sign up for a FREE trial with Tailwind. Thereafter, you can choose to keep it free or take advantage of a subscription. Plus! It’s actually affordable and SOOO worth it!

Grow Your Blog Traffic

Learn Pinterest strategies that will teach you how to grow your blog traffic with Pinterest. Plus, pinning techniques and perfecting Pinterest SEO.

I had no idea there was “small details” to make your Pins searchable with background information so they pull up when searched by keywords. Ell walks you through ALL of this!

$$$$ Make MONEY $$$$

Learn how you can also use Pinterest to MAKE MONEY and increase affiliate sales.

Who doesn’t want to make money with their writing??? I do! Though I haven’t yet….more the fact I have an infant and timing has been rough, but if you put forth Ell’s content guidelines and follow her steps there is NO reason your effort shouldn’t pay off.

What Are You Waiting For?

Just like I did, you probably have hesitations. I don’t blame you. But with Ell’s 30 Day Money Back Guarantee, what in the world could you possibly lose? One of the best feelings in the world is finally seeing your efforts paying off and getting results! So, take the plunge like I did, see it for yourself and feel in control of your blog, writing, Pinterest account and more! So click HERE and get started with Ell!

I hope you were able to take away something useful from this post. I know it was a game changer for me and I know it can be for you too!

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Mama Robbins