My 7-year-old daughter came up with an idea to write her own short story. I figured that was kind of cool considering she wasn’t told to do it for school or anyone else. This decision was 100% all her own.
A few days after we finished writing the story, we were at the dinner table eating supper with the family.
Kierra: “Mommy! I have a great idea. How about when we are done, you put it on your blog!?”
Me:“What makes you want to put it on my blog hun?”
Kierra:“Well, I think it would be a great idea for your fans to see work done by your daughter on your Blog!” ….
I pondered for a moment.
Me:“That sounds like a great idea… I would love to.”
Here’s the thing…my daughter wished to have these “hand-drawn” pictures associated with this story. Problem? I can’t draw….like at all. We also discussed getting the pages printed out, laminated, and bound. She wants to dedicate it to her brother, Baby Rylan, once it’s finished.
So…we created a contest for one lucky winner to win $50 to draw these pictures for us!!!
So….with that being said, here is a story that was written by my daughter and illustrations completed by Erin! I hope you enjoy!
Sugar & Spice
Once upon a time, there was a girl named Sugar and a girl named Spice. They were best friends. One day, they got in a fight.
They were fighting over a crown. The crown had nine jewels. Two jewels were crystals, two were hearts, two were stars, two were circles, and one jewel was a bird.
Then they stopped fighting. They both realized they were fighting over something they could both share. So, they apologized to each other.
The next day, Spice went to Sugar and said, “I am getting a new crown tomorrow! It is the same as the one I have now. That way you can have one too.”
Sugar felt happy she was getting the same crown they were fighting over. Sugar knew there had to be a solution to this problem.
They were fighting over the crown because it had special powers. The crystals were able to freeze time, the hearts could make people happy, the stars could bring people back to life and start over, the circles could make plants grow faster than normal, and the bird allowed people to talk to animals.
Once Spice and Sugar got both of their crowns they started using the powers. First, Spice used the bird and she was able to talk to a fox. Sugar used the crystal to freeze time so she could go to the mall. She decided to get glitter and a new halo for herself and new horns and a pitchfork for Spice. Sugar then went back to Spice and unfroze time. “That was awesome!”, said Sugar and Spice.
They were happy because they both had a crown and they were playing together. The next day they saw a wand and started to fight over it.
The wand was magical. The wand had a crystal like the one on the crown, but this crystal could make things appear! This started the problem all over again!!!
I know…I know…this story seems a little…strange. But I don’t care because it’s the first time my daughter has had a desire to write something outside of school letting her imagination go!
I want to thank all of you who sent in your submissions. My daughter and I are more than thankful to see all your creations!!
Where Mother’s Day Came From – Little History Lesson
Why One Day To Celebrate Our Mothers Isn’t Enough
Ways To Show Appreciation
Let’s Start With A Little History…
It all started over 100 years ago, back in 1908, by a woman named Anna Jarvis. After her mother, Ann Reeves passed away, Anna created a special memorial service to celebrate her legacy. Thereafter, Anna was able to establish one special day per year dedicated to cherishing our own Mothers. This became the holiday we know today as Mother’s Day.
But here’s the thing…as society does with all the holidays, in my opinion, we have created yet another “Hallmark” day. One more day a year we intentionally spend money and remember that “special someone”. So now we have this one day per year to celebrate our Mothers. The women in our lives that have raised us, supported us, been there for us….day and night. On this one day, we show her how much she means to us with flowers, cards, chocolates, gifts, or handcrafted tokens of our appreciation. We may make her breakfast in bed, ask her out on a special date, or spend quality time with her wherever her heart desires. Today….is her day. But let me ask you this….for the woman who is so important in our lives, the woman who brought us into the world, or the woman who has been there for you……why does she only get ONE DAY?
So What Am I Saying?
Let’s show her appreciation EVERY SINGLE DAY! (or at least Way more often)
Ways To Show Appreciation
Phone Call – Make it a daily or weekly check-in. I know I can personally let this slide a little too long. I may notice it’s been three days to a week since our last phone conversation. Just pick up the phone and call. Let her know you are alright, you’re still alive and see how she is doing! My mom lives over six hours away. For some, that seems close. However, even that “close” I only see her once, maybe twice a year if I’m lucky. Our moms usually love to hear from their kids!
Write A Letter – If your Mother was born around 1960 or earlier, take a pen and paper and mail her a physical “handwritten” letter. Nothing says “I love you” more than an actual letter. This isn’t done much at all anymore. I almost guarantee she will LOVE it! Besides, maybe we should brush up on our penmanship these days. We’re so used to typing and texting, we could refine this long lost skill! 🙂
Random Acts Of Kindness – One day when you go to visit, show her appreciation by doing dishes, sweeping the floor, tiding up where it’s normally messy. If your mom is anything like mine, she has her “particulars”. She isn’t much for wanting others to clean because she loves it all done the way she wants it. Well, you can ask her what one small thing you can do to help her out, an errand to run, or….you can have her read one of my previous Blogs “Letting Go Of Control To Get Chores Done & Having More You Time”. We all have to let go at some point! 🙂
Just Because Days – On any day of the week…a “Just Because” moment…get her something. What is she into? Cooking, gardening, carpentry, knitting, etc? Use this to your advantage! Maybe you get her a special spoon from a place you just visited. You could get her a special garden tool. Purchase different coloured wool or some knitting materials. If she isn’t into “stuff”, see if spending a day together is something she would rather prefer. Though some people may be hard to shop for, it will always be the thought that matters, not the purchase that is made.
Though some of our Mothers live extremely far away, don’t let this be an excuse to not talk to her or catch up with her. Our Mothers are by far the most important people in our lives! Your Mother carried you for nine months in her belly. If it was anything like some of my pregnancies, getting sick day and night for the entire duration! After you were born, she was there for you, changing your dirty diapers, soothing you, rocking you, reading you stories! She saw you off to grade school, high school, then maybe Univerisity or College! Maybe she was even there for your wedding! Without our Mothers, we would not exist. We would have no reason to celebrate them for even just ONE DAY.
Now…what if you don’t have a Mother anymore….maybe she passed away, left, or you just don’t get along or talk anymore? Well…that is an extremely touchy subject and I would never express I understand what you are going through. However, what I can tell you is one day…. you had a mom. Regardless if she was there for you or not. You were brought into this world by her. So for that…even if it was an accident, we should be thankful that YOU are here with us today! So celebrate YOU if you need to. Because YOU are worth it.
To me, Mother’s Day is a day to remind ourselves of who we came from. A day to remember the struggles she went through for us. But every day is a day to show her appreciation because you never know when today will be her last.
The moments we take for granted and need to be with our children
Personal experiences I’m sure you’ve felt as a parent and how I will continue to “try” to embrace…because let’s face it…it’s hard
Mama Robbins Series
It was a moment of time that felt like yesterday. My youngest daughter was learning how to crawl for the very first time. The joy I felt for her as she met yet another milestone. These are the moments we wish to remember forever. But then….the inevitable happens. They grow up, move out….so we hope…and have children of their own. I remember thinking….I “wished” I had taken in more of those moments when they were smaller. Maybe how I should have passed up those extra work hours to come home and spend time with my kids. I remember all those times my kids said, “Look at me mommy”, but kept saying, “just a minute”. As time goes by in the moment it feels like forever, but when we look back we wished it was forever. Why am I writing about this? I’m telling you this because I regret not spending more time with my two daughters when they were younger. It has only been over the last year I have really re-evaluated what my time is really “worth” and who I shall give it to.
Now, as I just had my third child, I reflect back on those moments with my two girls and know this time will be different. I will embrace all those moments I struggled with to the best of my ability and all the moments I should have been more present. What moments are those?
Things I Will Embrace…
Those late nights the baby won’t go to sleep. The ones where it’s their usual bedtime and they won’t go to sleep. You shhhh them, rock them, feed them, change them, walk with them, re-feed them, re-shh them and NOTHING WORKS. It’s 2am and they still won’t go to bed and you have to work at 6am the next day. Heaven forbid you put them down… they freak out and you need to pick them up again. Those nights you want to break down and cry because it’s so hard and your exhausted. As for my daughters, they keep getting out of bed and ask for one more glass of water, they still need to pee, or they just want you to sit with them in the room. Now…you can think back to the moments you once struggled and remember…this is temporary. Plus, once you do get them to sleep, you get moments like these (this picture is priceless). There will come a day where they won’t need me to help them sleep and that will be the day I will wish I could turn back time.
The days they just won’t stop crying. You’ve tried everything and they just keep crying. They scream as loud as their little bodies can handle for hours…and hours…and hours. You try everything Google says you should. Everything all other parents suggest and they just won’t stop. You look it up online and they call it “Witching Hour”. Who the heck came up with “WitchingHOUR“??? It’s more like “WitchingDAYS” as it seems to be non stop for what feels like weeks on end! Your heart hurts for them as there is nothing you can do to make them calm down. You get so frustrated that they won’t stop and you feel like you just need a break. But then I think back to the moments I once struggled and remember…this is temporary. There will come a day where the crying won’t be full-time. They may only come to me in need of a broken heart or a rough patch in their lives, but these to will become limited. It will be that moment I wish I could turn back time.
The days my kids want me to be with them. There were so many times my girls wanted me to go to the park on a nice day, but I was “too tired”. They wanted me to draw, but I “wasn’t in the mood”. They wanted to help me with chores, but I wanted it “done quicker”. They wanted me to watch a show with them, but “I had cleaning to do”. The nights they wanted me to read them stories or tickle their back, but I had “the next day to get ready for”. I think back to the moments I once missed when they were younger and remember…this too is temporary. There will be a day they no longer as me to spend as much time with them. It will be that moment I wish I could turn back time.
The “special days” I may miss from work. Most parents eventually have school-aged children that have recitals, Christmas concerts, field trips and other activities that are conveniently placed during a normal workday. The days I said, “Sorry hunny, mommy has to work” came all too natural when they would ask for me to go. But then I remember all the memories I’ve already lost and I remember…this too is temporary. Jobs come and go…my memories of my children will last a lifetime. So now, I do everything possible to ensure I don’t miss these special moments because there will come a time they no longer have these “special days” and that will be a moment I wish I could turn back time.
Crazy thing….these are only a few things I feel we take for granted in the moments of raising our children. My kids are still very young, which means I have YEARS to ensure I take advantage of every moment I can with them. Of course, there are still going to be days I need to say no, days I will just wish the crying will end, the tantrums will stop, the time I just want to be alone; but in the end my kids will never remember the clean house I had, the laundry that was done, or the work I accomplished. The only thing they will remember is the QUALITY TIME I spent with them. Just remember… this is ALL TEMPORARY. There will come a day where they don’t need you as much, your home will be empty, and you will think back and remember you wish you could turn back time. So enjoy them while you can, because they won’t be kids forever.
Personality Plus discusses FOUR different personality types. It teaches you how to talk to people and why they behave the way they do. I’m sure you have someone in your life that just seems to do rude things for no reason and they don’t even know they are doing it. Likely, they “actually” don’t know. They don’t do things to be mean, they just don’t have the knowledge to acknowledge their behaviour to change. Maybe you have someone in your life that is just utterly lazy and never wants to leave the couch or someone who can’t keep quiet…I mean ever! This book will help you understand why they are this way.
How It Changed My Life…
This book has allowed me to discover my own personalities. For example, my personality is a Choleric/Melancholie – I am strong willed and love details. (Except when I write. Writing has never been my strong point) Oddly enough, my husband has the SAME personalities as I do. Had I not read this book, we would have never worked! Honestly, in the beginning, it was a little rough. We fought quite often over the dumbest thing and he got on my nerves way too often. Now, the difference is like night and day! So…this book is a high priority. Especially when it comes to ALL relationships. Plus, there is a quiz that will allow you to determine what Personality you are.
The 5 Love Languages
An absolute must! Why? Imaging doing something for your partner that YOU think will make them happy. The only problem is they don’t seem as happy about it as you expected them too. Reason? Usually, it’s because you are not targeting “their” Love Language. This book goes over the FIVE different Languages and even has a quiz in the back for both you and your partner. Once you discover what you are, you can then ensure you are proving your partner with the Love Language that will ACTUALLY make them happy.
How It Changed My Life…
How did it change my life? Well….now when I want to show my husband I love him, not that he doesn’t already know, but I will ensure we go out for a walk and I turn off all devices. 100% “QUALITY TIME” – His #1 Love Language. Or, maybe I decide to tell him how great of a job he is doing helping out with the kids. “WORDS OF AFFIRMATION”. As for him, I am “ACTS OF SERVICE” and “PHYSICAL TOUCH”. He knows he should be helping me with chores around the house or cuddling with me on the couch, or extra hugs. This made our relationships a TON better and it’s crazzy to realize it all came from this book!
The Magic Of Thinking Big
The title of this book kind of says it all. It walks you through how we can limit our thoughts and question what we can really achieve. It discusses some of the different excuses we may use to get out of things we are even afraid to do and don’t realize we are doing it. This book will give you steps to think BIGGER so you can start getting more out of life!
How It Changed My Life…
The Magic of Thinking Big really made a huge impact on my life as it allowed me to see the dumb excuses I would always make for not going after what I wanted. My goals would seem “Too Big” to accomplish, so why bother attempting in case I failed. Now, I don’t care about the “realisticness” of the goal. I will make a plan to try to go after it anyways. Even if I do fail, I tried and I will always learn something from the process.
How To Have Confidence & Power In Dealing With People
This is a fantastic read for anyone, even more so for those who are used to being quieter and laid back will benefit even more! This book helps you build confidence in yourself and learn traits you already possess to use to your advantage. Are you afraid to be around people? This book is for you!
How It Changed My Life…
My biggest fault…I LOVE to talk. I could talk all day on anything. However, most people don’t want to actually listen to you, they want to talk about themselves. I learned how to step back, breath, and take in all of what someone else is telling me. I learned to ask more engaging questions and really hear someone instead of thinking of my response WHILE they were talking. This is a huge control factor for me and it is still hard to this very day. But it is what is most beneficial for others.
Attitude Is Everything
Attitude is the ONE thing we have 100% control over. Whether you are having a rough day right from getting out of bed, (these days seem to be the worst) forgot something at home that you needed for work, or your kids are completely stressing you out. But YOU can control if you take it and leave it. Or you can say “What the heck”, brush it off, and be happy anyways. I also loved this book because it’s super small and very easy to get through.
How It Changed My Life…
I struggled big time with always thinking negative. Literally, about everything. I’m sure you know the feeling of down thinking, it can make a mountain out of the molehill! Augh…that feeling is horrible. However, I was able to REALLY dig into this one and put the message to practice the same day I started reading it. WOW…..what a difference. Now, I am able to have something difficult or bad happen to me and CHOOSE to be okay with it. I learn a lesson in everything, so whatever it is can only make me stronger!
Eat That Frog
Oh…one of my favourites. Why do today what you can get done tomorrow. This book is ALL about procrastination and how to just “start”. This book will give you all the information you need to get those pesky, stressful tasks completed and work your way through what is holding you back. Another very small read
How It Changed My Life…
I used to have a huge issue with putting things off until they piled up so high I wouldn’t even want to consider the task. Picture albums for the kids, craft projects, paperwork that “I’ll do tomorrow, but tomorrow never came”. Didn’t matter what it was, unless it was an emergency it almost never got done! Now, I have a shred, delegate, file process to ensure I don’t get stressed out anymore all because of this book. Even dealing with emails, writing my blog…yes, there ARE days I don’t want to do this either. However, the idea is just to sit down and START. Don’t plan how much you will get done. Just start. That has made almost everything I do in life just that much easier.
The Ant & The Elephant
I had no idea how this book was going to tell me anything. I mean…look at the title! However, this is all about your conscious and subconscious mind. As they describe it…imagine you are an ant on an elephants back. As you, the ant is walking towards the tail and the elephant is walking forward, you are getting nowhere, but farther behind. This book tells you how to align our two minds so we can stop self-sabotaging ourselves.
How It Changed My Life…
We create these horrible self-sabotaging habits in our lives and we don’t even know we are doing it. A common one is pushing people away from you who start getting close and you feel they deserve more than you. Without thought, you push them away and then either end up leaving or you make a HUGE mistake. (I was there). This book allows you to find ways to convince your mind of all the things you want and how to chase after them.
Have you ever struggled with your finances? Do you find you have way more money going out than coming in? If your compound interesting working against you…and what I mean by this…when you wake up, are you broker than when you went to sleep? It is amazing what our lives have come to these days with inflation and all the other nonsense with money. Wouldn’t it be nice to have money stashed up for a rainy day? How about if something goes wrong with your car or appliance, you just tap into your savings and it’s all taken care of and you barely notice?
How It Changed My Life…
This book saved my LIFE. Not kidding. I was the average person living paycheque to paycheque. No savings and if anything went wrong, ohhhh dang! I had no way to come up with any extra sum of cash on the spot. After this read, I now have an emergency fund with “life or death” money, target savings for random purchases, learned about the “snowball effect” and so much more. My finances have never been better! It’s amazing what this little great book can do! So this is a definite must-read for sure!
Do you find your feeling get hurt easily? This short read is an amazing way to get thicker skin so those pesky comments just roll right off. It teaches you ways to pick out the things that really matter.
How It Changed My Life…
From reading this book, I am finally able to pick out what really matters in life. I am able to “pick my battles” so to speak. This has made a huge change in my life as now I’m not feeling beat down but comments that really shouldn’t be taking away time. Especially when it comes to parenting, picking your battles is super important. Less arguing!
Turn The Page
I am sure most of us would say, “Why would I need a book that tells me how to read?” Well…have you ever read a chapter in a book and wonder, what in the world did I just read? Can you remember most of the details from every chapter in a large book? If you can, I’m jealous. However, if you are like me, you probably struggle to remember a majority because there is just SO MUCH content!
How It Changed My Life…
This book will teach you the opposite of everything you learned as a child and dealing with books. You will learn to write questions at the beginning of this book, highlight, mark in the margins, argue with the author, and more! After understanding the proper method of reading, it was amazing HOW MUCH MORE I was able to grasp from every book I read thereafter! This is an ABSOLUTE MUST for anyone who reads at all – which…let’s face it…should be everyone!
There are SO many books out there that have lessons you can learn. I love to look at authors as distant mentors. When you do, your opportunities are endless with the amount of information you can learn and from whatever topic you want. Don’t stick with normal novels all the time. If you make sure you are reading at least ONE self-improvement book, over time the transformation will be amazing!
Setting goals does not come easily to me, but I know writing them down can increase your chances of hitting them. I’ll warn you in advance, this Blog is more a personal one. As part of my own self-improvement, I want to write these goals to keep track of them and check back in 2020 to see how they panned out. What about you? Have you thought about what you want to achieve this year? Maybe some of my goals may inspire you or give you an idea of what you can aim to achieve. So without further delay:
Monetize My Blog – By 2020 I want to have started making money off my Blog. I don’t care if it’s even just a few dollars a month. Any income is a success for me. My goal with monetizing is to afford to create e-courses or materials to help others. However, I will not be charging the crazy amounts other people see. I’ve watched and studied so many online tutorials, e-courses, webinars, etc., and they ALL have an end result of “click here and purchase” with a price tag that I feel is ridiculous. The average course is around $600 with the ones I have watched and have hit a max price of $3059 for one of them. After only watching a Webinar, how do I trust your material is worth it? I get the money back guarantee, but sometimes the hassle is not worth my efforts. That is a LOT of money to risk – so I want to price more in a range the “start-up” can even afford. I feel when your mindset is more to help people than to profit, it’s a win-win!
Twitter Followers to 2000 – This is self explanatory – I promote a lot of my blogs on Twitter, but moreso I engage with my audience. I reach other to others and ask for advice, help others who I see need it and also get a lot of “Special Feathers Bloggers” from promoting here. My Twitter Family right now is unbelievable. They are all extremely genuine people and no one talks down or degrades anyone. If I see any negative feedback on my feed, DELETE! It’s that simple.
Understand & Optimize Pinterest – This whole Blogging thing has been a learning curve on it’s own. I’ve also learned Pinterest has grown to be one of the top locations to gain traffic with your Blog – so I need to learn the in’s and out’s of Pinterest and take advantage of directing others to my work! I recently starting using Tailwind and this has been a LIFESAVER! It allows me to auto post for the week so I can focus on what really matters. My content!
Qualify for AdSense – This may seem strange, but I want to be able to post and use AdSense on my Website. However, after applying recently, my content is not yet up to par with their regulations. Once I get a few more posts and hash out some more details on the layout, I hope to qualify to start advertising!
Be Consistent With Blog Posting – As I’m sure you all know, consistency is key with anything you do in life. Blogging is no exception. I want to make sure regardless of what happens I can post at least ONCE a week. I don’t think that is too much to ask of myself. I understand I have three kids under 8, and a full-time job come November, but finding time is a priority for me. Right now my posting schedule is Wednesdays (Throw Back – Old post republished) and Fridays (Friday Frenzy – New Blogs)
Obtain my RIBO (Registered Insurance Brokers of Ontario) License (again) – Technically at this moment I already this license and it is valid. However, after having a baby I will end up letting it lapse as I’m not employed with an insurance brokerage at this time. So…around September I will start studying to take my exam and expect to be “relicensed” by November.
Start Working For Insurance Company – I am currently employed with a car dealership. Not where I want my career to go. So I have a potential job lined up with an Insurance Brokerage I’ve wanted to work for years! Due to some initiative on my part, I may have got myself an in! This is a crazy story. Quick – Essentially I saw a job posting online and new I couldn’t apply because I was able to go on maternity leave. I went to their website, posted a comment how I wished I could have applied and expected nothing. Few days later I got an email from the manager asking if I would be intersted in taking some time to have a phone interview. That week we completed the phone interview where we discussed me coming in during the summer for an in-person interview. I followed up a few weeks ago and guess what???!!! My interview is scheduled for May 7, 2019. Talk about something happening when I did not expect it to!
Buy My Husband Car – He is a mechanic. Anyone who knows a mechanic or is married/with one will know they run those things to the ground! The one he has is falling apart. So I would like to get him another “used” car before Summer. The type is all on him. Likely a standard because he is picky.
Have An Emergency Fund – Yes I currently have a savings account, but it isn’t anywhere near what I would like it to be. I would like to have an emergency fund that has 3 months of living expenses should the worst happen. This would be the end goal. For now, as hubby and I are both on parental leave, 1/3 of that amount will do for the end of the year. ($2500)
Visit Parents For Christmas – This one seems like it should be simple, but requesting time off from a new employer can sometimes be challenging. Especially it will be for one week! My parents live in Northern Ontario and it’s a 7 hour drive from where I am. If you know much about me, I’m huge into family time and being together.
Create Business Cards – As part of my Blogging, I feel business cards would be a nice touch. I have people bring up topics I speak of on my blog and I find it would be much easier to have cards to hand out with my information instead of writing it down on paper all the time.
Write A Book (Rough Draft) – I’m not sure on the direction this one is going. I’ve had a few great ideas on a few children books. Think about it…my Business name is Mama Robbins Series – This gives me the opportunity to write a “series” of books and will work well into my blogging.
Start Vlogging (YouTube Channel – May 2019) – This will be to add a personal touch to my brand. I want my followers to see the real me. Have you ever heard an author speak and every book you read after that it’s almost like you can hear them talking? I want my audience to really hear me when they read my Blogs. Plus, it will be great for those who don’t like to read!
These are just a handful of goals I would like to achieve THIS YEAR. My actual Goal List is comprised of 90 Goals right now. That’s an insane amount. They range from getting certified in specific programs, to vacations, to simply being a better mom. Like I mentioned before, goal setting has never come easy for me but ensuring I make them and write them down is key to success. A lot of us set limits on what we think we can achieve in life and we need to get outselves out of this mindset. When it comes to goal setting, NEVER hold back. Once you realize what you are truly capable of, you will start achieving success in your life in areas you never thought possible.
I hope reading some of my basic goals for 2019 have started a thought process of your own. What do you want to achieve this year? Where would you like to see yourself in the next 30 days, 12 months, 2 years, 5, 10 or even 20? Start out with 10 goals and constantly build on them. You should evaluate this on a weekly, monthly and yearly basis and never stop adding to your list.
If you would like to read more about specifics on how to make a goal, how to plan, setting deadlines and how to execute, head over to my Blog on “When Did We Stop Dreaming”. Also, if you feel you are struggling to make your goals or have no idea where to start….email me and I can coach you, FOR FREE, how to go after what you want.
Make your dreams and desires come to life…one step at a time.